I am now able to see what I must seek for and receive before I may hope to attain to a higher and holier state. I do not wish to be suddenly on the heights, my desire is to advance by degrees. The impudence of the sinner displeases God as much as the modesty of the penitent gives him pleasure. You will please him more readily if you live within the limits proper to you, and do not set your sights at things beyond you. It is a long and formidable leap from the foot to the mouth, a manner of approach that is not commendable. Consider for a moment: still tarnished as you are with the dust of sin, would you dare touch those sacred lips? Yesterday you were lifted from the mud, today you wish to encounter the glory of his face? No, his hand must be your guide to that end. First it must cleanse your stains, then it must raise you up. How raise you? By giving you the grace to dare to aspire. You wonder what this may be. I see it as the grace of the beauty of temperance and the fruits that befit repentance, … These are the instruments what will lift you from the dunghill and cause your hopes to soar. On receiving such a grace then, you must kiss his hand, that is, you must give glory to his name, not to yourself. First of all, you must glorify him because he has forgiven your sins, secondly because he has adorned you with virtues. Otherwise, you will need a bold front to face reproaches such as these: “What do you have that was not given to you? And if it was given, how can you boast as though it were not?”
Bernard of Clairvaux, On the Song of Songs I, Sermon 3 The Kiss of the Lord’s Feet, Hands and Mouth, v. 4 (CF 4, p. 18-19)