You live well if you live in an orderly, friendly and humble manner: orderly towards yourself, friendly toward your neighbor and humbly toward God. Live in an orderly way, so that in your entire way of life you are careful to pay heed to your ways, both in God’s sight and in your neighbor’s, guarding yourself from sin and your neighbor, from scandal. Live with friendliness, so that you strive to be loved and to love, to show yourself gentle and friendly, to endure not only patiently, but also willingly, the moral and physical weaknesses of your brothers. Live with humility so that when you have done all these things, you may strive to blow away the spirit of vanity, which tends to arise from them; and whenever you perceive it, to totally refuse consent.
Bernard of Claivaux, Sermon 1 for the Feast of the Apostles Peter and Paul (CF 53, p. 102)